I blew up at my Mom tonight. She naps on/off all day, comes out like everything is fine, then all of a sudden, she's nauseated, not feeling well, swaying on her feet...all because it's time to feed the dogs.
I felt like she uses this "I don't feel good" card all the time to excuse why she can't do this or can't do that. It makes me angry. I went out of my way to create cute 'clip art' picutres on what to feed each dog, when, etc., putting them up where they could be seen very easily. Not only did she not look at them, but then when I asked her to look, she got all 'dithery' which just made me more angry. I behaved like a spoiled rotten kid. I was unreasonable. She didn't meet my expectations and I yelled at her. :( I feel lower than a snake's belly. :(
She says she can feed the dogs, but then asks me what they eat. She says she can cook supper, but then 'gets sick' and says she'll throw up if she has to look at food. It feels like she's just stringing me along. I guess I need her to say she just can't do these things any more and take the reins and do it myself. But she won't say that. I think I'll just take up the reins anyway... The only reason I haven't is because I've been trying to keep her feeling needed, feeling she has responsibility--you know. It's not working any more.
The good thing is she acts like she doesn't remember my temper tantrum but accepts my apology anyway. I love her. It's just so hard to give up my idea of who my Mom was and accept who she's becoming. Any ideas how to take out that anger in a more positive way?