I am glad I found you people this evening, I am at the end of my rope and feel I have nowhere to turn. I got married at 61 in 2010 for the first time with high hopes for a bright future with a loving, compassionate partner, we had been together for more than two years. She is type 2 diabetic with the associated issues and had survived a major heart attack but I knew that going in.
Four months later she was diagnosed with kidney cancer. and had one removed. The surgery was major, we almost lost her. Since then she has had another cardiac arrest, pain from arthritis has become so severe she has limited mobility and her vision is almost gone due to the diabetes. We are hoping one eye can be saved with cataract surgery.
I feel like I have gone from being a husband and partner to a full time house boy. She complains constantly and refuses to do the simplest tasks for herself. I cooked my own dinner tonight, she didn't want to eat but had to criticize how I fried a pork chop and nuked some vegetables.She loves to cook and feels guilty when I have to prepare a meal. It seems nothing I can do will please her, the demands feel endless. She has become her mother.
I help her dress, get in and out of her favorite chair in front of the tv. I clean, do the laundry and take care of a large yard. To put it bluntly I feel trapped in a situation that is spiralling out of control. We retired to a small town, support services are very limited. Where do I go from here?