I am a part time caregiver of my 92 y/o Grandmother who suffers from dementia and is totally dependent. My friend lives with her full time with 3 days/ 1 night off (set schedule), but freely takes off more time when she needs it (this week 4 days off/2 nights off).
I have been managing my Grandmother's life (medical, financial, etc) since 2006. She had 2-T.I.A's in 12/10 and I moved in with her until February 2011 when I found out I was pregnant. I had to move her into a home for dementia residents. She lived there until November 2011 when she was found unresponsive and sent to the hospital. She was bleeding internally somewhere in her GI track (I discovered the facility was giving her prescription blood thinner plus another residents blood thinner!). No way could I send her back so I found a way to move her into a rental home with 24/7 care. My friend just went through a break-up, had to close her retail store, and loooved my Grandmother. She was willing to move in and care for her full-time. I was able to get her meds straightened out, off of her psychotropic drugs and within a week, had her out of her wheelchair and walking again with use of her walker (has neuropathy from spinal stenosis). She made a total comeback! She has been full speed until about 3 weeks ago when she began sleeping all the time.
I have been searching out caregiver support for to offer my friend because after this amount of time it seems like she would have some level of burnout. Luckily, my friend doesn't appear to have any form of caregiver burnout (thankfully). I talk to her about it all the time and she assures me she is totally fine..... Ironically, through my search I realized that, in fact, it is ME that is suffering from caregiver burnout.
I literally go from my house to my Grandmother's with my 18 mo. old daughter and a few of my dogs in tow (we have 8 dogs/ 3 cats-i was big into rescue before my pregnancy surprise). My husband and I own 2 businesses (restaurant and a bar). I have not had a "day off" since November 2011 when I was in a wedding out of town.
I am at the point now that I can not stay focused, I am deeply depressed, I cry daily sometimes multiple times throughout the day. I feel hopeless. I feel overwhelmed. I have completely lost my happy. I am in so deep now that I don't know how to dig my way out. I prefer to stay away from antidepressants as treatment....
-Sorry so long.....