Tired frustrated exhausted no help

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yorkiemom
Tired frustrated exhausted no help

Hi,

Need advice on just getting by day to day. 

I am taking care of family and I am away from my husband.  Its been along time since Ive seen and I feel emotional spent from that and the day to day care of  a couple family members.

It is almost impossible to get away with out panic from them.  Even doing errands causes complete panic. I have not been able to get help from family members. 

They have time for there own personal things. (ex.movies, church, eating out, other family gatherings, just to name a few)  However are unable to sit with them for a couple hours a week for me to get away.  I get well its not my problem you will just have to figure it out.  I am there all day and night .  Its not that there is a lot to do.  I just cant leave or have any personal time.  When I do it becomes comlete caos. 

I miss my home and family dearly.  I dont think that anyone understands. 

Thanks for your help and listening.  It has been helpful to let it out. 

Anyone with any advice!  Feeling lonely and abandoned by family.  Have asked for help no one ever has time to lend a hand.  Can't even get personal time for my things.  They can't help too busy.  What would they do if I wasn't here?  They would have to pay someone for 24 hour 7 days a week care.  I bet if it hit there bank account they would see things in a whole new light.  

 

 

 

Tired Daughter
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I can relate

I am so sorry - I can hear the exhaustion and frustration in your words.

My life is much like yours - I have 24/7 care of my 88 year old mother with dementia and have for a few years.  I have 6 sisters who will not help and don't care that I am burning out physically and emotionally.

I wish I had words of wisdom to share but I don't.  But I do have a shoulder and an ear any time you need to talk.

TheTech
Sorry to hear about your

Sorry to hear about your situation.  I pray that one of your family members will reach out and try to help you.  Sometimes it may take something happening to another family member serious to realize what you are going thru and dealing with.