My grandfather is 86 and is experiencing the later stages of Alzheimer's. He lived at home and had 2 falls in the last year. It was as if the first fall knocked something loose, and he went from sometimes being confused to.... Just much worse. The second fall we decided he needed 24 hour care.
(Anyone know why this happened)
He can walk and use the restroom on his own and can physically get around. He cannot hold a conversation, and cannot remember anything from his short term memory. What he had for lunch, who came to visit, he has no clue.
He is currently in a nursing home, he doesn't like it and I don't blame him. He is very sweet, and never raises his voice, just asks when he's going home, over and over and it rips my heart out every time.
The info I am getting is that he is past the point of an assisted living facility, and any nursing home in the area is similar or worse. (Essentially a wing at a hospital)
Money isn't much of an issue. We can afford just about anything. (It can't be a place for the top 1%)
When I look for facilities online I can't seem to find any organization. Does anyone know of a database, or a consultant we could use? We are in the upstate NY area, between Rochester and Syracuse.
Or are my efforts just fruitless? Are all nursing homes just essentially a hospital?
If a facility is an assisted living program, and has an Alzheimer's wing, does that mean that they take people who need more care than your average assisted living facility?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.