For several years, I've been caring for my mother-in-law, who is currently 92 yrs old, about 300 lbs and with bad knees. She's incontinent, so she wears Depends and we have a towel and absorbent pad under her lift chair (a recliner that also can help lift her up almost to a standing position).
We have tried to help her lose weight over the years, but she refused. Because she is an adult, entitled to make her own decisions, we have respected her choices.
But we've reached the point where now she can no longer walk. It takes both my wife and I to help her from her lift chair to her wheelchair and from the wheelchair to the toilet and vice versa. Further complicating matters, she refuses now to make the effort, preferring to sit in her own filth to allowing us to change her underpants and robe.
I don't know what to do. I love her dearly and know that standing and walking take tremendous effort, and cause her pain. But we can't allow her to just sit for days at a time in a pee and poop soaked diaper.
Any advice is welcomed.
Sun City West, AZ